沒(méi)有跌宕起伏的情節(jié)

沒(méi)有大起大伏的脈絡(luò)

連女主都沒(méi)有火辣身材

只有女性感興趣的小帥哥

細(xì)膩入微的情感刻畫(huà)。



搭訕的法國(guó)男人怎么就不猥褻，反而體貼吶~~~

 
it's the first weekend i spend one hour and half to finish this movie which i left midway several weeks ago.
very romantic. i poured myself a glass of water and began to reminisce the acquaintance i've made with Chris.
the first time i saw him was in the librabry lounge. he asked me whether i'd like a cup of coffee, and i said chocolate. that's the way we found language partners in our university. i pasted up a little affiche on the outsidewall of the Friendship Shop looking for a language partner who speaks english and should be a native speaker. once he introduced himself as a french i was surprised. anyway he's european and spoke english. i was glad to have a friend. you know university life is not always full and most of my spare time was spent with those people. i was grateful that this university offered me such opportunity to enrich my experience with a variety of people, so i tried to make use of this resource.
hey,what's your name? kendra, i know it's hard to pronounce it in french...well,no no, it's alright. (and he tried to say it in french, it still souded queer.) we talked in agreement. and soon it's lanch time. i remember it should be a saturday or sunday, for Semmiss was not busy, but still with a number of students. he bought me a sandwich and i asked for a glass of juice, so the same with him. it's the first time i took a liking for the sandwiches in Semmiss. it's very cosy cafe; most foreign students especially europeans found it similiar to that at home. he said the cheese was good and also the beef, and taught me that if i found the the two peices of bread piling up together too thick, i couldn take off one and it still tastes good. i was interested in paris, and he told me paris women were in dominant. the only thing i found was that he's very thougtful with women and chivalrous. i spent more than half a day with him, and it's the first time i realized that i can talk with a frechman with fluent english.
i went to his dorm one night. he showed me his music and the movies he liked. 2046 was the one he mentioned. anyway as he sat so close to me and habitually put his hand on my thigh i felt uneasy. shortly i said i should go. i used to complain to him that i couldn't sleep well in the dormitry, so he said i could have his key and any time i came to get a sleep he could drop away. as i fell into an embarrassed silence not knowing how to refuse, we were both at pause.
after that i never went to his dorm again, but he still called me sometimes. i scarcely helped him in Chinese. and not after long he moved off campus and rented an apartment near Price Market. he invited me to his new apartment but i always had my excuses. he knew many things about women, even the strange relationship between women and the changing gravitational force of moon and also astrology.
 i still remember once we met by conincidence at the door of the library and he held me aside and said, he'd checked on the internet and knew that next year would be a difficult year for me. he told me to be careful. the fact proved that i really had a close shave with catastrophe during the next year. then we sat outside the library and chatted about something unmeaningful. that's a most beautiful autumn day. i truly deeply impressed by his expression of "i'd like to keep sunshine in my eyes".
later we met less and even null. his name was Christopher. i suggested that if he'd like "克里斯" was a cool Chinese name, so the other day he showed me his passport. it was "克里斯" on it. i smiled.
it's really a long time before we met again. when we first made acquaintance with each other, i used to run into him three times in a day, which he said was indeed lot or luck. the last time i saw him was the spring of the next year. i came back from a korean student's home and rode on the campus. outside the football field we saw each other. i knew i was kind of avoiding him for quite a long time, but soon i realised this was the last time we met. i was graduating and he's also moving somewhere else. he said maybe he's going to Xinjiang, where there're a lot of beautiful girls. we both laughed.
he worked with Phillips. and we lost contact after that. he didn't show up at my graduation ceremony with flowers.
later i left Peking...

30歲女人如何？30歲單身女人又如何？
欲求強(qiáng)烈，希望有人守在自己身邊，但朋友們都有了自己的家庭要經(jīng)營(yíng)，就連上交友網(wǎng)搜索25~45歲男人都會(huì)被告知：Your selectiong didn't turn up anything.
她難過(guò)，她焦慮，她抽煙喝酒，歇斯底里的傷害自己。

我在午夜2點(diǎn)時(shí)看完了這部片子，可能是時(shí)間的原因，電影的前半段讓我感到壓抑?？粗鳱ora一次又一次的找尋，一次又一次的試探，一次又一次受傷害，到最后終于下決心放下一切負(fù)擔(dān)從紐約到巴黎找到Julian，我送口氣，好吧，終于還是一個(gè)HE啊。
但篇尾Julian的那句 Would you stay with me for another drink? 著實(shí)讓我心動(dòng)了下。

為什么需要一個(gè)伴侶？記得我的一個(gè)朋友說(shuō)要和她的男朋友分手“和他在一起太無(wú)聊了”，我問(wèn)她“如果分手了會(huì)怎么樣”？她想了想說(shuō)“會(huì)更無(wú)聊”。
無(wú)聊和更無(wú)聊，你選哪個(gè)？
當(dāng)然，那只是20多歲的我們的想法，30歲會(huì)想什么？找個(gè)好男人，結(jié)婚，生子，有個(gè)完整的家庭。
應(yīng)該說(shuō)，是要一個(gè)歸屬。

所以，在被問(wèn)到 Would you stay with me for another drink? 的時(shí)候，點(diǎn)頭說(shuō)YES。
心有所屬的留在他所在城市里。

Nora媽媽安排的相親男人對(duì)Nora說(shuō)，你真的很nice。這在美國(guó)是一個(gè)半褒半貶的詞；在紐約基本就是個(gè)貶義詞了。

天真的Nora以為約會(huì)的演員喝醉時(shí)說(shuō)的話(huà)是真的，還跟媽媽炫耀說(shuō)她有了新男友，豈知他只是一夜風(fēng)流而已（在紐約真的還有這么純情的美國(guó)女生么）；在她失望地離開(kāi)后，Nora好朋友的老公Mark說(shuō)，Nora很好，就是不懂男人，男人是需要挑戰(zhàn)的。Audrey說(shuō)，你是說(shuō)男人都喜歡像我這樣的bitch么，Mark邊笑邊說(shuō)是的。

幾天前一個(gè)年紀(jì)大的同事問(wèn)我modern dating是什么樣。我覺(jué)得這就是modern dating，男人拼命想把女人灌醉，說(shuō)些夸張的情話(huà)，然后上床； 如果還有好感，兩個(gè)人再都玩些游戲，給彼此些挑戰(zhàn)。

所以當(dāng)Nora遇到非典型的Julian，她以為這不過(guò)是另一個(gè)想把我哄上床的家伙罷了。于是Julian想親Nora的時(shí)候被她避開(kāi)，她不明白為什么Julian不停說(shuō)跟她在一起的時(shí)光很快樂(lè)，她對(duì)沒(méi)有跟她上床的Julian留下來(lái)并和她共度一天白天的時(shí)光感到十分費(fèi)解。在她焦慮癥發(fā)作跟Julian發(fā)脾氣后，以為Julian已經(jīng)被嚇跑了；第二天發(fā)現(xiàn)Julian卻在臺(tái)階上等她---她馬上開(kāi)心的不得了。

那個(gè)在酒吧的Paul說(shuō)的很好，你沒(méi)什么問(wèn)題Nora，你尋找的和別人不一樣，但你得先找到自己才行。

Nora在地鐵上遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)看到Julian的時(shí)候，有一瞬間，我以為她決定放手了。雖然后來(lái)兩人跑出地鐵看的很過(guò)癮，總覺(jué)得什么地方不對(duì)。或許期望主角的個(gè)性在一句話(huà)后就改變還是不太現(xiàn)實(shí)吧。 Nora還是一個(gè)過(guò)于nice的人。至于她和Julian是real love還是法國(guó)版的modern dating， 我就不得而知了。

P.S.,我覺(jué)得任何不受酒精催眠的白天發(fā)生的sex的場(chǎng)景都很美，看的時(shí)候真心為主角歡喜，比如這部電影，比如Meet Joe Black。

"我們活著也許只是相互溫暖，想盡一切辦法只為逃避孤單.."
——鄭鈞《極樂(lè)世界》

看完《Broken English》（《蹩腳英語(yǔ)》），我覺(jué)得沒(méi)有什么比這句歌詞更適合作它的注釋?zhuān)珳?zhǔn)到絕望。

我們害怕孤單，于是希望有人來(lái)愛(ài)我們；當(dāng)年齡增長(zhǎng)，這種可能似乎更?。徽l(shuí)沒(méi)有嘗過(guò)苦果，只要他/她曾經(jīng)嘗試；心中有屏障，是為了避免傷害；但是傷害和孤獨(dú) ，誰(shuí)又比誰(shuí)更可怕？。。
 
愛(ài)情可以驅(qū)逐孤獨(dú)嗎？也許這本身就是謬論。
 
“大多數(shù)人在一起只是為了避免孤單，但是有一些人希望有奇跡magic”
“這有錯(cuò)嗎？”
“沒(méi)有，只是奇跡不總是發(fā)生?！?br> 
法國(guó)紳士在酒吧對(duì)Nora這樣說(shuō)，這是所有人心中的戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)吧；如果一切仍然鏡花水月，你會(huì)妥協(xié)還是繼續(xù)孤獨(dú)尋找。
 
了解太難，信任太難，改變太難，承諾太難..這一切都讓人舉步維艱；這無(wú)關(guān)時(shí)間，Audrey結(jié)婚五年，仍然和丈夫隔閡難融；
 
Nora的母親和Audrey的丈夫是世俗的追隨者，幸福于他們是一種可以物化和形式化的物事；這樣的世俗壓力是強(qiáng)大的，如果我們每年婚慶，背后裝點(diǎn)事業(yè)成功，人際和滿(mǎn)，這樣假裝的幸福未必不會(huì)弄假成真；反正說(shuō)到底，誰(shuí)又見(jiàn)過(guò)真正的幸福呢？
 
Nora不是什么斗士，不是沒(méi)想過(guò)屈服；只是有那么一點(diǎn)挑剔，或者根本就是運(yùn)氣不佳；35歲的女人追逐熱情未免可笑，可是心中的種子，總會(huì)被上帝知道；你真的相信了，它總會(huì)驀然成真。
 
這仍然是童話(huà)的安慰，但是我真的很欣慰結(jié)尾她安然滿(mǎn)足的微笑。
 
Magic，相信不相信，全在自己；其實(shí)也沒(méi)什么可怕，反正人生不過(guò)是場(chǎng)經(jīng)歷，沒(méi)有結(jié)果，更沒(méi)有回程。。
 
PS: 片尾曲“Broken English”是Mariane Faithfull的老歌，由Scratch Massive翻唱并制作為電聲音樂(lè)；看歌詞應(yīng)該是反戰(zhàn)的歌，選中它也許是歌名的緣故，但聽(tīng)到的時(shí)候也覺(jué)得意境契合。
 
Could have come through anytime,
Cold lonely, puritan
What are you fighting for ?
Its not my security.

Its just an old war,
Not even a cold war,
Dont say it in russian,
Dont say it in german.
Say it in broken english,
Say it in broken english.

Lose your father, your husband,
Your mother, your children.
What are you dying for ?
Its not my reality.

Its just an old war,
Not even a cold war,
Dont say it in russian,
Dont say it in german.
Say it in broken english,
Say it in broken english.

　　沒(méi)辦法，對(duì)于[蹩腳英語(yǔ)]這樣的電影，我不得不說(shuō)，看的時(shí)候不要喝咖啡，煙酒也不適宜，雖然電影中有煙和酒，但那不過(guò)是個(gè)幌子，茶（中國(guó)綠茶）也不行，不搭調(diào)的，所以，對(duì)，奶茶（紅茶加奶，請(qǐng)用滾水。）
　　
　　娜拉（女主角）不特殊，她是我們身邊常見(jiàn)的朋友，或者就是你自己，正因?yàn)槿绱?，所以她就變得“特別”了，難道誰(shuí)會(huì)否認(rèn)自己特別嗎？娜拉的朋友們并非都在美好的戀愛(ài)和婚姻中，她最好的女友雖然在婚姻中，但同樣面臨的是感情的危機(jī)。這部電影講的不是愛(ài)情的困惑和危機(jī)，講的是人自己對(duì)自己，面對(duì)自己的感情危機(jī)，孤獨(dú)感，不確定性等等，焦慮憂(yōu)郁和希望快樂(lè)來(lái)回游蕩的人內(nèi)心的恐慌和希望，提倡那種法國(guó)式的熱情，至少表面上不沉淪，提倡釋?xiě)?，提倡?ài)的前提是首先愛(ài)自己，相信自己，提倡那種不把幸福建立在某種定義上的思維方式，幸福不在婚姻上，也不在工作上，不在好友是否在乎和關(guān)照你上面，在乎你自己的內(nèi)心對(duì)幸福的確立，當(dāng)你把所有都放下，從內(nèi)心體味到一種釋然的輕松和愉悅的時(shí)候，幸福就能悄然而至，很東方式樣的思辨提示，帶著巴黎的人文氣息，所以看的時(shí)候不得不喝奶茶。
　　
　　選擇有午后陽(yáng)光的日子看這部電影吧，愛(ài)女人的男人也看看吧，女人，其實(shí)很有思想，而且真的不那么膚淺。：）

女人到了30歲，如果還是單身，都會(huì)開(kāi)始變得神經(jīng)質(zhì)起來(lái)。
有的人選擇樂(lè)觀地神經(jīng)質(zhì)，有的人則選擇抑郁痛苦地面對(duì)它。

bj是前者，norah應(yīng)該就是后者吧。
看bj，你應(yīng)該是開(kāi)開(kāi)心心的或者捧腹大笑。
看這部電影，如果你單身，如果你也是那個(gè)"唯一"的單身。那么，小心被他刺到。norah其實(shí)就在顯現(xiàn)出那個(gè)你。

她是漂亮的，但是只是一個(gè)人獨(dú)自美麗。
她是那么渴望被愛(ài)，雖然她很想掩飾這點(diǎn)。
她是情感豐富的女子，但是很多時(shí)候她不知道該怎么維系一段關(guān)系。

讓人看得很心疼

但是還好，她最后有個(gè)好的結(jié)局